How much do you like being a victim?

That may sound like a dumb question – who wants to be a victim? But, unhappily, the answer is, most of us, too much of the time.

That’s easier to understand when you realize that the alternative to being a victim is being responsible. And again, most of us would rather blame someone else – our parents, spouses, the economy, and so on – than take responsibility for our lives and behaviors, including self-medicating. Especially self-medicating.

That reality probably costs us more potential clients than any other single factor. Most of us, deep down, would prefer to be “powerless over our disease” than to have our alcohol abuse simply be a logical, if destructive, choice.

We’d also rather have someone else, or some program, be responsible for fixing it for us so we can continue to drink our lives away, but place the responsibility elsewhere as in “I went to AA,” or “treatment” but “it” didn’t work.

Admittedly, those are attractive choices if you have successfully conned yourself into believing that the mess you’ve created in your life is a better choice than actually getting a life.

But if that’s the case for you, personally, then why are you reading this Newsletter and spending late nights on our website?

Of course the truth is, you know better. You aren’t powerless, you aren’t diseased, but you aren’t happy either. And you don’t know how to fix it.

We don’t know exactly how to fix it either, but we do know how to work with you to find out. And we know how to help you through those first difficult days, weeks, and months.

And we know how to do it without a lot of cults, B.S., or magic pixey dust.

As Katherine Hepburn noted: “We are taught that you must blame your father, your sisters, your brothers, the school, the teachers, – you can blame anyone, but never blame yourself. It’s never your fault. But it’s ALWAYS your fault, because if you wanted to change, you’re the one who’s got to change. It’s as simple as that, isn’t it?”

And you needn’t wait a single moment longer to start changing.

So how about giving us a call and let’s see about sorting things out and getting you away from pseudo-victimhood and into actual adulthood? Really – life is a while lot happier when you’re in charge.


Even 30 years ago most folks figured out that Alcoholics Anonymous wasn’t even remotely “anonymous”. These days treatment programs aren’t either.

Of the many factors that brings clients to us, privacy is near the top of the list. Out clients want to fix the problem and leave their alcohol abuse behind in every way.

That’s never going to happen in AA where you are signing up for public exposure – let’s face it groups of any kind are never confidential and groups of whining losers less so than most.

The same goes for most treatment programs that are mostly made up of the same groups and types of staff.

Add what happens when you use insurance. Insurance records aren’t confidential and the companies are only all too eager to sell and trade your information – including a life long “alcoholic” label, even when you aren’t. Maybe especially when you aren’t.

The alternative?

Fix the problem quietly, privately, effectively, and permanently.

That’s what our clients do.

Isn’t that what you want too?

Odds and Ends

Confidentiality, why you want to avoid residential treatment and groups of all kinds.

The Bucket of Crabs or Why AA and Al-Anon are Bad For Your Health.

Alcohol Abuse, Alcoholism, and 12 Step Programs That Can’t Tell the Difference, don’t care, and will gladly burden you with inappropriate and damaging labels that will haunt you for the rest of your life.

Women and Alcohol – What To Consider In Treatment  and why women need and deserve services built around women’s needs, not just another recycled (and failed) men’s program – which is all anyone else has to offer.

Links to Success:

Smart Women and Alcohol Abuse

“How Can You Possibly Cure My Years of Alcohol Abuse in Just 5 Days?”

The Real “Steps” to Overcoming Alcohol Abuse

Ten Things I Wish I’d Known Before I Sent My Brother Off To Rehab;